Welcome! We are creating this blog as a forum for women in their mid-thirties and older who are interested in becoming a mother. Whether you are single or married, gay or straight, trying to conceive now, have a young child, or would like to have a baby but know that it may not be for a few years, this blog will educate and inspire you. This blog evolved from a book we wrote about this subject. Our goal is to clarify statistics, share women’s experiences, to offer practical coping advice to manage stress, and to discuss “Pregtiquette.” Pregtiquette is a term we coined to help navigate some of the sticky situations that can arise when you are trying to get pregnant.
More and more women are finding themselves in this situation. If you’re American and age 35-45, when you were born, only about 1 in 100 mothers had their first child at age 35 or older. Now about 1 in 12 first-time mothers are 35 or older. There are also interesting regional and racial variations in these trends, and we will explore that in later posts.
Even though it’s becoming more common, waiting to conceive until after age 35 is often presented as a risky decision—risky for the health of the mother and the baby and risky in its likelihood of success. The risks may often be overstated, as described in a recent Atlantic Monthly article.
Meanwhile, women are faced with a potentially overwhelming amount of health advice about how to increase or prolong their fertility. So, let’s talk about how challenging it is to make sense of all that. The information processing only begins at pregnancy so we will also address “AMA” parenting.
We are not only your guides, but fellow travelers on this journey. Emma is the mother of two girls born when she was 35 and 37. Sharon became a mother at age 38 after years of trying to conceive. We know intimately the struggles and joys of this journey. We are passionate about helping women just like you!